• Chapter 18 – Adoption Approval Panel

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    The big day is finally here, PANEL DAY!! We have been awake since the early hours of the morning and to be honest neither one of us could sleep properly. Our minds going crazy feeling excited but at the same time terrified we might be rejected. Lying in bed we both agreed to just get…

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  • Chapter 17 – The Final Visit and Preparation Time

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    It’s been 3 weeks since we last saw Gemma which has felt really weird but also very relaxing knowing we haven’t had to think about any perfect answers to her questions. Following the last several weeks of home visits and workshops she is putting together our PAR (prospective adopters report) in preparation for our adoption…

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  • Chapter 16 – Rich’s One to One

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    So, it’s now been three weeks since I have seen Gemma which is probably the longest period that I haven’t seen her for quite some time now and in a weird way I think I have missed chatting to her. Mainly because every time we get to see her and talk over all the process…

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  • Chapter 15 – Lew’s One to One

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    It is time for the first of our one on one sessions and I am going first, Richard is chuffed as he gets to miss this week’s visit from Gemma and is hassle free with work for once. I on the other hand am freaking out as I know I babble and Rich is normally…

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  • Chapter 14 – Our Lives as a Timeline

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    The past couple of weeks have gone so well and the journey is actually very exciting and we are being very organised with our huge hardback folder full to the brim with forms, dividers and photocopied versions of the forms we have already submitted. I mean maybe we are a little over the top with…

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  • Chapter 13 – The First Proper Visit of Stage Two

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    So here we go, the first three-hour session with our new social worker Gemma feeling just as nervous as always but with a small sense of relief that we will not be meeting anyone new today. Gemma is taking us all the way through to approval panel, so it’s time to turn on the charm…

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  • Chapter 12 – Meeting the new Social Worker

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    So today is the day we meet our new social worker Gemma which has made us so nervous as Sue has literally been so nice and we have already created a great relationship with her. Now we have to start all over again with a new person who we may not get on with as…

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  • Chapter 11 – End of Stage 1 Visit to Check Paperwork

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    Literally so excited and quite frankly relieved to have all of our background information checks back so we can prove with evidence we are not criminal masterminds, and have the certificates to prove it. The abroad background checks from Spain, Cyprus and Finland were finally here but doubt they will be able to read them,…

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  • Chapter 10 – Learning About Attachment and Loss

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    You make up this amazing fantasy in your head about the perfect family consisting of your children who you will love unconditionally and they will return your love with theirs. Cuddles in bed on a Sunday morning whilst watching children’s TV and having that happy ever after feeling. It would just be so simple, as…

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  • Chapter 9 – Back to School and More Paperwork

    July 21, 2020 Richard and Lewis

    Today we are attending the first day of a three-day workshop all based around the realities of why children end up in foster care and then go on to being adopted. This is our first time and we have no idea what to expect, are other couples going to be more prepared than we are?…

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