Tattle – Read It or Not

December 6, 2020Rich

We have always known about the website that talks about social media accounts and was aware that we featured on it, but on the whole, it was mostly positive, so we didn’t really pay much attention to it. Until recently when we were told by one of our followers about the potential risk to the boy’s name being put out there on the site, which luckily turned out to be the wrong name, but still it was all very unnerving. On checking the site to make sure it wasn’t the correct name, we did then stupidly read through all of the other comments about us, which have clearly taken a turn for the worse since we featured in our first brand collaboration. Even though we have made it clear that we will now be featuring now and then in well thought out partnerships, that we feel match our account and are interesting things that we feel our followers would want to hear about.

Unfortunately, it is now clear that due to working with brands we will have to pay for this by being featured more and more on tattle and unlike a lot of other Instagram accounts that seem to pretend that do not look at it or read it, we will openly admit that at the moment we cannot help ourselves and end up checking it regularly. It may eventually become too much to keep checking it, especially if it is just negative over and over again, but for the moment we will no doubt keep having a look. In all honesty, there is one comment that we agree with and will no doubt change our account positively to reflect their view, which is about the secrecy and stories that are all mysterious and not really telling you what we are up to. So, instead of doing these styles of stories anymore, we will simply complete the work and reveal properly when it is ready, as we both agree that it can be quite annoying watching stuff like that when we look at other accounts.

It’s been nearly two years that we have been on Instagram and in that time we have honestly turned down so many advert opportunities and we continue to do so numerous times weekly, as we have never wanted to become another advert only account, as believe it or not we just do not have the time to complete the work and have our own jobs to worry about and a family life too. But, there will be occasions as we have said that we will work with specific brands that we do believe in and when we genuinely enjoy the product or service on offer, such as Tesco which is the supermarket we actually shop in weekly and felt the positive story about their Clubcard being able to save you money, was an important message to remind our followers about.

We are sure that a lot of people will have the opinion that we should just ignore the site completely and not acknowledge it at all, but for us that isn’t going to work as we would then just be dealing with it in secret and we like to always remain open and honest about the things we have going on, both positive and negative, as we are always real on our account and what you see is what you get. We are a just two parents like any other out there, doing our best to have the most fun as possible with the kids, while also trying to educate and bring them up knowing right from wrong. We also want to point out clearly here, that we are not going at any of the tattle bloggers and are certainly not going to be branding them as trolls, because as we have said before, we know we are not always gong to be everyone’s cup of tea and that is absolutely fine. I mean we all have different taste in music and we all love certain foods over others, so it is perfectly okay for some people to enjoy certain social media accounts too but we only ever ask that it be done in a kind way.

It does seem a little crazy to think that people would want to know the names of our kids so badly, that they actually come up with completely random names and convince themselves that they are true, based on the letters we have in our kitchen. The only thing we would like to ask these people who felt it was appropriate to try and expose their names, is whether they do actually understand what the potential implications are and could be. In reality there is a very tiny chance that it would have an affect on our lives or the kids, but there is also a very slim chance that it could have a detrimental impact on us and could lead to potential safeguarding concerns which I am sure that even the people on tattle that dislike us the most wouldn’t want to happen, as we do have two very happy children who have a lot of difficult conversations to come in their lives and we would appreciate it if we could be left to decide on the best way to do that and not force us into these difficult situations sooner than we need.

The comments that are most recent that are focussed on greed and money felt harsh on us, but we can understand why people can easily put two and two together and come up with twenty-one, as we only share around three to four minutes of our daily lives with you each day. Since we started our Instagram, we have only actually worked on four adverts and if any of you think that would fund everything you have seen us do or have then you clearly don’t know us well enough yet. Between us we have two full time jobs, we run a business and also put a lot of effort into our Instagram to hopefully brighten up a few people’s day and continue to show that a two-dad family is just like any other family out there, simply built around love.

We will admit that we spend far too much money on holidays and going away with the kids, but neither of us really have any other hobbies, we don’t smoke, we don’t really drink very often and we aren’t big gamblers but our tipple is going away with the kids and making the most of them while they are young and still think that their Dad’s are cool. As let’s face, before too long, they will be jetting off to Ibiza with their friends and we will not be invited and will be sat at home wishing they still wanted to come to Disney and be meeting the characters all over again.

The hot tub is also a funny one too, as in fact it cost us under a thousand pounds as it is a four year old model that Rich’s business partner and best friends was getting rid of, as they were have some renovations done at home and wasn’t getting enough use of anymore. It was going to be got rid of and they offered it to us for free, as long as we arranged the transport and took it off their hands quickly and of course we jumped at the chance. But it is flattering to think that people believe we would be paid this much money for the few adverts that we do, maybe we need to up the amount we charge for this stuff moving forward.

The building work and extension that we have been talking about on our page is a very expensive job and that is why it has taken us nearly two years to save up the money since moving in, to even be able to start the work. But you will also notice that it isn’t going up in super speed, like we see with some other accounts when they are having building works done and that is because Rich’s cousin is sorting all of the work for us in between his company’s actual bigger jobs, to enable it to be done cheaper at family rates. We know and accept fully that it will take longer, as we only have a certain budget and this is the only way of achieving what we really want. We would obviously love to pay out thousands and thousands more to have it done really quick but the reality is that we cannot afford to do that and instead rely on our lovely family helping us out with mate’s rates.

Round off the greed and money situation are the funny comments about our cars, as I am not sure what you all think we are driving around in but we actually both drive a Ford, not Porsches and Ferrari’s although that would be nice. The car that we bought recently was actually a replacement for the Land Rover that we had, which was far more extravagant and expensive to run but we really aren’t materialistic people and decided to go for a much more sensible option in a two-year-old Ford Kuga and we absolutely love it. To add the not materialistic bit, you should know that we actually used to live in a much bigger house with our own heated swimming pool, but it was too far away from our family and friends, so we sold it and moved back, as we would much rather be closer to our loved ones than feel like we have made it by having a house with a swimming pool. Obviously, there are times when we miss having the pool and the hot tub just isn’t the same, but nothing can compare to being able to pop in to your Mum’s, your Sister’s, your Brother’ and your friends whenever you want within a few minutes.

Now having set a few of the facts straight, it’s time to talk a little about the mental wellbeing and emotional impact to reading about ourselves on sites like tattle. At first it was funny, then it felt weird and it can actually become a little upsetting and make you start to second guess everything, meaning you worry about who these people actually are and whether they are actually followers who engage with us but really just want to check what we are doing to then be able to tattle about it. The last few days have been really weird for us, as we have worked so hard to give something back through our ten days of prizes which we started to arrange back in September, but feel like it has been a little overshadowed by the comments on tattle about us.

To round things off, we probably will keep a check on tattle because we just will not be able to stop ourselves, although it would be brilliant if we could just completely block it out and never read it again. But, what we are going to do is agree to not acknowledge the site or the tattlers themselves anymore on any of our social media, as it brings negativity and that is not what we are about at all and we would also like to ask that those of you who do like us, do not bother to retaliate to any of their negatives as they are completely entitled to their opinion and we would hate for anyone to be falling out or having arguments over our Instagram account.

Instead, we are going to continue with the fun, the silly videos, the little snippets of our lives and the odd partnership when we see fit, of which we still have a couple of cool ones to come before Christmas and one of them is exactly what you all know we (well Lew) would love to be involved in. We will be continuing to put all of our energy into our family, giving the best possible lives we can to our beautiful children and enjoying the amazing support from all of the very lovely people that do like us, because social media has really given us one of the biggest and best support networks we could have ever asked for.

Thank you for reading, Rich and Lew x

Comments (43)

  • Beth

    December 6, 2020 at 12:36 pm

    You guys are amazing! No one is ever gonna have everyone like them (and who would want that anyway?) keep doing the amazing job that you’re doing with those beautiful babies! There’s way more support for you guys than negativity! ❤️

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 12:37 pm

      Yeah we completely know that and just wasn’t sure what was the best thing to do and hoping this will help people understand our thoughts and then not have to worry about it anymore 😍 thank you for being kind xx

      1. Mrs Roslyn Brown

        December 6, 2020 at 8:30 pm

        I never seen any of the bits that you mentioned previously about your children’s names. After reading about it I did think it seemed strange why people have such a thing about finding out! But in recent months I have seen there is a lot more negativity going on and I don’t know if it’s because this year more than ever people are just not happy within themselves.
        I wish you every blessing and good wish on your account which I for one so enjoy!! 🙏🏼🌈🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 X

  • Rebecca

    December 6, 2020 at 12:41 pm

    If you want to spend your hard earned money on incredible holidays for your children, that is no one else’s business, but yours. I couldn’t think of a better way to spend your money than giving your children amazing experiences and memories to cherish as they grow up. Ignore the trolls – you are an amazing family and wonderful parents.

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 12:44 pm

      Yeah you are so right about spending our money on whatever we want, just felt we needed to explain. Which we know we don’t have to, but hopefully makes it a bit clearer for people out there. Oh and thank you xx

  • Linda

    December 6, 2020 at 12:49 pm

    I love watching the videos of your daily life. I hope you carry on showing us your gorgeous children whose names we don’t need to know. If you are lucky enough to get some paid advertising that you genuinely like and trust – good for you!!!! I won’t be looking at the Tattle site – not interested in negativity. Have a lovely Christmas xxx

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 12:51 pm

      Linda that’s such a lovely message and thank you for being so supportive. We are 100% going to continue with the positive vibes on our account and just wanted to try and put a bit of closure on this for ourselves xx

      1. Jean Stevenson

        December 6, 2020 at 2:32 pm

        Boys,just keep on being you. I love you’re page,been with you from day one and look forward to your chatter each day .lots of love to you all.Merry Christmas xxxxx

      2. John

        December 16, 2020 at 7:07 am

        So sad to
        See all the abuse your receiving it’s really not on , I do remember when you used to mock accounts doing ads though and take piss out of it , and always bang on your not an ad account , we don’t do ads blah blah blah ,

        Be careful what you say cos it comes back and bites you in bum boys

  • Debbie

    December 6, 2020 at 1:01 pm

    Really makes me sad that you have been put in this position by adults who should know better. I love you all and have never even wondered about the kids real names as that is none of my business. Keep smiling remember love is all that matters ♥️

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 1:34 pm

      Yeah we agree it is a sad fact that we need to do this but we felt it was the right thing to do for us. We will keep smiling and will never forget that love is all that matters ❤️ x

  • Bev

    December 6, 2020 at 1:02 pm

    I love your account and really appreciate you sharing little snippets of your life they make me smile and the naughty elf honestly has me laughing out loud. My Dad used to tell me that other people’s opinion of you is none of your business which is true it’s theirs and nothing to do with you or who you are but everything to do with them so best not to take any notice. Keep being the lovely genuine people that you are and thanks for the laughs x

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 1:38 pm

      Well we think your Dad has got it spot on and that’s why we wanted to make sure it was addressed in this way. We’ve acknowledged it and made it clear we will not bother anymore with taking about it and will just do what we are doing. The elf is great fun for the kids, our son finds it so funny 😂 xx

  • Tracy

    December 6, 2020 at 1:05 pm

    You guys are doing a great job on Instagrams and in life I love watching you every day and following the progress the boy girly and Belle are making it’s heartwarming and funny and most of all it’s real .. do whatever is right for you and what you enjoy and have time for there’s always going to be negative nellies don’t let it get to you the positive outweighs the negative by millions you are fantastic and absolutely smashing it your children are beautiful and have got the best life ever ..you are AMAZING 🤩

  • Elle

    December 6, 2020 at 1:10 pm

    I thought the way you addressed Tattle was brave, but more importantly, fair. Not everyone will agree with everyone but your account should be a place for you to place whatever content you see fit.
    I love the content on your page and think your children are beyond lucky to have two amazing, super engaging, not to mention handsome, parents! Keep making us laugh ❤️

  • Clare

    December 6, 2020 at 1:10 pm

    Please dont ever stop being who you are. Your instagram page and stories are something I look forward to watching every day. Rich and Lew you are the best daddies to the boy and girly and are a truly wonderful family. Much love to you all x

  • Karran Hemmant

    December 6, 2020 at 1:11 pm

    This post brought tears to my eyes why do people need to be so negative. The love you have for your children shines through.
    I’m a product of a bad past so it’s so good to see yours being loved cherished and more important being given a wonderful foundation to build the rest of their lives on.
    Keep on being you and the laughs you bring thank you xxx

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 1:32 pm

      Karran thank you for sending us such a lovely message, it proves that there are some lovely people out there that understand what we are saying and thy we do have our kids futures at the forefront of our minds xx

  • Connor Hughes

    December 6, 2020 at 1:12 pm

    I really applaud you guys for addressing the hate you are getting. It’s totally unwarranted and some people have no lives so choose to bash you and your family for making the most out of life! Keep doing what you’re doing, love following your lives xx

  • Tina

    December 6, 2020 at 1:18 pm

    I’m so pleased that you’ve decided to ignore all the negativity. I love watching your daily antics with each other and your beautiful children. What does it matter what their names are. Just continue to be the fabulous parents and partners to each other that you are xxx

  • Janice Byrne

    December 6, 2020 at 1:20 pm

    You don’t need to justify yourselves to anyone and those trolls don’t deserve to have your answers. How dare they question how you spend your hard earned money. We are the same all our spare money goes on holidays and it’s no one else’s business. That is just plain jealousy. They believe they’re doing nothing wrong but normal people don’t behave like that. Try not to read it if you can at all. Definitely not worth your time. Keep doing what you’re doing and your genuine followers will be happy that you’re getting some new opportunities out of your account.

  • Catherine Ide

    December 6, 2020 at 1:36 pm

    I can’t see why these people have to be so negative. What business is it of theirs what you do. So sad for them. I love watching you both. You are amazing parents and when i hear the boy talk, he sounds so happy and confident. Carry on enjoying your gorgeous family. Love to you all, oh and Merry Christmas. X

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 1:54 pm

      We really cannot understand why people choose to be so negative either, but we know it happens and have to realise that it comes with the territory. It doesn’t make it right but at the same time we know you cannot be liked by everyone. Thanks for your lovely message and Merry Christmas to you and yours too x

  • Jodie

    December 6, 2020 at 1:37 pm

    You guys are my favourite account on Instagram, you’re honestly so lovely and make me smile every day! Don’t feel like you have to respond to every criticism and justify everything you do as there’ll always be people bringing the negativity for various reasons. You can’t please everyone! You come accross as so genuine and a family filled with love. I don’t understand the issue from partnerships, why would people expect you to put in the amount of effort it takes to run your account for us to view without getting any perks? X

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 1:56 pm

      We haven’t really ever felt the need as we haven’t been affected by it before now, so wanted to make sure we addressed it today and in a constructive way, so we don’t have to comment or talk about it anymore. As we are all about looking on the bright side 😃 Yes we do make a lot of effort and thank you for recognising that too xx

  • Lorraine Swazey

    December 6, 2020 at 1:57 pm

    Oh I’m so sorry people say such awful things about each other…..I enjoy your posts so much…. the love and care you both have for each other and those 2 beautiful children is heartwarming! You’re a wonderful family- giving equally to each other- children included💖!
    Thank you for all you give us!💞💞
    Stay safe & well ☃️

  • Judith Mayes

    December 6, 2020 at 2:11 pm

    Can’t believe anyone would want to say anything negative about you at all. I personally am not keen on the advert stuff you’ve started do but I wouldn’t dream of bitching about it. It’s just my opinion. I’m guessing I feel that way due to the other accounts I used to enjoy but then became all about adverts.
    My one question would be is why have you highlighted that tattlers are tattling about you? I had absolutely no idea and I follow you every day (and have always loved your family)

    1. Rich

      December 6, 2020 at 2:18 pm

      We know the adverts every now and then are not what everyone likes watching, unless it is something that is specifically what they want to watch. But I guess it’s the same as watching the TV and at a critical moment it goes to the ad breaks, but if you like the show you still wait for it to carry on. We will always try to limit what we do in terms of adverts and make sure it is always relevant to what we are about. We had to highlight the issue, rather than pretend we didn’t know, as we like to keep it real and this is something that had affected us over the last week or so x

  • Anne

    December 6, 2020 at 2:13 pm

    I can not understand why you should feel that you need to justify yourselves

    People do not have to follow you

    The sad thing is there are trolls who get a kick out of upsetting and offending people .. ignore them …. carry on doing exactly what you are doing 👍

    You are both great…

    Merry Christmas to you all ❤

  • Carol

    December 6, 2020 at 2:17 pm

    My kids are the same age as you guys and our joy was taking them on holidays over the years and whenever we are all together now with them as grown ups we always reminisce and laugh about those times. Make precious memories with your babies, I am so glad we did. Ignore the ignorant, you are both doing a great job xxx

  • Rebecca

    December 6, 2020 at 2:18 pm

    I actually can’t believe you even feel like you need to explain your spending! Enjoy the blummin hot tub, the holidays and the work on the house! You are working for the income regardless of if it’s your usual job or adverts! If people don’t like it just unfollow it’s so simple! I have two kids similar ages so I love watching your happy little family! Also last night the naughty elf reminded me to do out elf so I’m grateful!

  • Darren

    December 6, 2020 at 2:27 pm

    I’m shocked anyone could have anything negative to say about you guys! Your positive energy has been truly amazing to watch from the beginning. I hope the blessings out weigh the bull, and khama come into effect. For sure you guys deserve great things for the future, and I’m sure there will be more people cheering you on then jealous of your achievements #teamtwodads

  • Siobhan Looney

    December 6, 2020 at 4:37 pm

    Oh my God guys, go on the holidays, go on a holiday every bloody day if you want. Its absolutely no business of anybodies how ye spend ye’re hard earned money, or how much ye earn. Ye are giving 2 beautiful children the beautiful life that they so deserve. Go spend as much or as little as ye want on making their lives memorable and magical. I can tell they will grow up to be amazing adults as ye will instill in them all the important values in life. They will always want to come HOME to visit their two dads in London. ❤❤❤

  • Carole Griffiths

    December 6, 2020 at 5:20 pm

    This post has really upset me, you guys are so amazing. Your content is beautiful, your babies are a delight, your little boy is just amazing, little girly and her giggle, just beautiful. Please guys honestly take no notice of these negative people jealousy is a very nasty trait. Xxxxxxxx

  • Heather Gant

    December 6, 2020 at 7:47 pm

    I thought it was funny that they turned “dude” into Jude so now in my mind the kids are named Jude and Shirley (rhymes with girly). You are doing an amazing job at raising those babies and sharing how normal a two dad family really can be. Don’t let the hate get you down. I had a little blog read by maybe 100 people and I got hate. It’s those keyboard warriors hiding behind a screen who obviously have something that made them bitter. Keep soaring above, loves!

  • Andrea

    December 6, 2020 at 9:21 pm

    Love you all to pieces 😚😍from the coffee to the sofa saga, the new disco office to the crafting with kids. Keeping it real and showing us all how brilliant you cope or melt down when parenting throws a curve ball. I’m not bothered what you promote. If your happy I know the kids are happy. When the kids are happy then we are all smiling. Xx

  • Charlie Harrison

    December 6, 2020 at 9:25 pm

    Please just live your lives the way you want to. Put you and your little ones before anything else, just like you do now. I love the way you look after them both and make sure they have so many happy childhood memories for the future. Loving families are the best.

  • Nicola Miller

    December 6, 2020 at 10:29 pm

    I’m shocked that there’s sad people out there getting away with these accusations & hurtful comments.What is going on in their lives that they think spreading these lies is acceptable god only knows but please don’t feel you have to question yourselves or ever justify your income or spending to us…ITS NO ONES BUSINESS!!!! Keep doing what makes you happy & enjoy your lovely family 🤍 F*ck them 😉

  • Clare Fairclough

    December 6, 2020 at 10:55 pm

    Absolutely love you guys and everything you stand for. Keep being yourselves- sadly people say ridiculous stuff, usually out of jealousy for perceived opportunity. You can see how happy you all are together and that is the most important thing xxx

  • Nicola

    December 6, 2020 at 11:27 pm

    I must admit I goggled the tattle and people are vile picking on such lovely people like yourself,mrs hinch and mario to name a few.
    You make me smile every day lew is deffo the funnier one and rich is more serious I think lol but you are brilliant together and amazing dad’s and I noticed the letters in the kitchen months ago but didn’t think about guessing the names of your children! As the saying goes don’t let the b****dad’s ground you don’t lol xxx

  • Bernadette Moneley

    December 7, 2020 at 1:08 am

    Don’t take any notice of these negative comments I haven’t read them as it isn’t important and I’m sure won’t be for anyone who enjoys your stories ,the people who are effected by them you don’t need ! Just remember there will always be negative people out there don’t let them infect your lives they are a virus so stop looking at them and carry on doing what your doing ❤️

  • Olivia

    December 7, 2020 at 1:38 am

    This is so sad to read -I’ll never understand why people feel the need to make comments about others like that on websites or social media – ive always thought if u don’t like something just stop following those people there’s no need to slander them over the internet! I truly love u guys and watching your lil family always makes me laugh, smile or just feel like I wish I could know u in person !
    Keep doing what you doing cos it rocks !
    Huge hugs from Nz

  • CleanwithMrsB

    December 7, 2020 at 9:52 am

    Guys I hate that this has happened to you as you guys are all about positivity and fun. So what if you spend thousands on your home or your kids (if you did) because guess what its your money to spend how you like. Ill be honest id love to be in a position like some of these big accounts getting freebies and money left right and center as then I wouldnt have to struggle to pay my bills. Its such a privileged position to be in and the only reason other people have a problem is jealousy as they would LOVE to have the same opportunities.
    You two keep being true to you and ill keep watching. Lots of love xx

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